Releasing the Chaos

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 I’m about to be really honest with y’all. I lost it the other day... I don’t even remember the sequence of events that led up to this moment, but I do remember it was dark outside, it was the end of the day, the baby was crying, the dog was trying to eat the dinner I had thrown together, the cat was puking on the carpet, the husband was out of town, and I had used up all my patience and grace for the day. 

Y’all. 🙈🙄


It just happened.... I let out a scream. Not necessarily loud, just enough to release the frustration that had built up inside me. An exhale that escaped from me releasing all the chaos I was in with no one to tap out to and say “I’m done. I need a break. I need to walk away for a minute.”


The funny part of the story was Aubrey stopped crying, looked me right in the eyes, and mimicked the exact scream I let out and laughed. 


It was as if she could feel my emotions and she reacted with, “oh, so this is what we do to handle this!” 😳 Dear baby Jesus, take the wheel!


I think, one thing you know in motherhood, but often forget, is that little eyes are watching you and taking notes constantly! The way I reacted that day is absolutely NOT what I want to teach my daughter for handling stress.  


I am far from a perfect mom. I hope I never give off that impression. I’m a mom who is doing her best and being honest with my struggles so hopefully I can help others. 


The thing is, I realize I need to work on how I handle situations that cause me stress. As much as I enjoy things to run smoothly, they will often not - and I need to be okay with that. The world won’t stop spinning, if things aren’t perfect. Aubrey won’t care if she eats chicken nuggets or homemade spaghetti. I can clean the dishes later (or the dishwasher can 😜). It will be ok if the floor is littered with toys and company comes over, etc...


How we choose to react is so incredibly important, because little eyes are watching us and we want to show them Jesus. 


“You are the light for the whole world. A city built on top of a hill cannot be hidden, and no one lights a lamp and puts it under a clay pot. Instead, it is placed on a lampstand, where it can give light to everyone in the house. Make your light shine, so others will see the good you do and will praise your Father in heaven.”  Matthew‬ ‭5:14-16‬ ‭



xo, A


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