Finding Less of Me

I’ve noticed, as a mom, my social skills are lacking. I either forget how to have adult conversations, or all I talk about is baby related topics, or I just don’t talk at all because  I’m so focused on what my baby needs, in that moment. And while I don’t want to discourage you from taking care of your child, I do want to encourage you to be present.  Being present is more than just physically being there. It’s being emotionally and intellectually there. It’s actively listening to what others are saying and asking questions. It’s asking people how they are and caring about HOW THEY ACTUALLY ARE - not just letting them respond with “fine” or “good” and moving on. Because if we are all being honest, most of us aren’t “fine” or “good”. Most of the time, we are in one of three places... Mountaintop - a place were everything seems to be going right.  Valley - a place where everything seems to be going wrong.  Somewhere in between - most days are good, a few cha...

This post is a little different than my other posts, but I’ve got a few friends that are expecting little bundles soon and I wanted to give a shout out to some of my favorite things that helped and still help me feel like a put together human in this journey of motherhood. ((Side note, I’m not getting paid to recommend any of these brands/products - just recommending based on my personal love for these products)) ..ONE.. Jesus! Whether it was just saying a prayer, doing a quick study, or my challenge to read the Bible through this year - spending time with Him and getting in his word has made all the difference. When I feel overwhelmed - he is the one that keeps me together.  ..TWO.. Coffee. It seriously does not matter what form you take it in - cold, hot, black, with cream - it’s all good! And the caffeine will save you when your functioning on little, to no sleep. A sweet friend of mine gifted me a pack of Starbucks pumpkin spice latte packets that you mixed with hot wa...

I’m writing this at 4 a.m... I’ve just put my daughter down for the second time this night. While I was feeding her, I was surfing Instagram and came across a mama to quadruplets, who makes motherhood look so effortless. And, it got me thinking how easy it is for us to make motherhood look effortless on social media. That’s why I try my best to be transparent with you and also why I’m so thankful for this journey God has allowed me to walk.    I’ve certainly had a few days that I’ve felt I’m not cut out to be a mom (those first few nights are hard), but I know that was just the devil getting in my head. And I’ve decided, I won’t let fear of being inadequate steal my joy from something God prepared me for, long before I prepared myself.  A wise woman once told me, “nothing in life that’s worth having is easy”. Oh, what good advice that is! I have to remind myself that when Jesus helps us grow - it doesn’t come without growing pains. He’s shaping and refining us into b...