The Wedding Book I Couldn't Find

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Marriage, marriage, marriage.... Who isn't getting married? It seems like every time I sign into my facebook account, someone else is engaged, someone else has set a date, someone else has a beautiful ring on their left hand, and not that it's a bad thing - but is it the right thing?

For me, marriage is something very sacred and I pray every day for God to prepare me and guide me into my marriage. But I was finding that through all my wedding plans, I was forgetting the most important part - God. How could I forget someone so sovereign, gracious, loving, and the one person that has led me up to this point in my life?

Frantically, I hit my favorite calming location - Barnes and Noble. I began searching the shelves for answers, something to help me figure out why my perfect wedding plans weren't working out the way I felt they should. And if you haven't been to Barnes and Noble to look at their wedding section - it's unreal. There are books about wedding etiquette, wedding planning, wedding decor, the anti-bride, the bridesmaid, the bridezilla, the grooms part... there's a ton of books there - just not the book I was looking for. 

After pulling up a stepping stool and sitting there staring at the wedding section for at least thirty minutes, I finally read a book titled, “Inviting God to Your Wedding & Keeping God in Your Marriage.” Thank you God. I still cannot express the amount of relief I was overwhelmed with when I picked that book up and began flipping through the pages reading intensely and agreeing with every word written. How have I missed this all along?
You see, I searched for this book a long time ago and I never found it. But for some reason, it was placed in that section, on that shelf just for me to see. God knows what he is doing, and he is constantly working in each of our lives. You just have to open your heart, learn to be patient, and enter with the willingness and the humbleness to accept that God’s way really is the best way.
I’ll be updating my progress in the book – but I’m entering it slowly. I have about 7 months before Justin and I marry and I want to make sure that I am prepared to create a future with Justin, celebrate my joys, acknowledge my fears, and not get overwhelmed with silly checklists of wedding to-do things. In other words, I want to organize my heart. I don’t want our wedding to be some theatrical event… I want it to be meaningful and special and most of all – I want God at my wedding.

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